She’s my girl to

This is where I am going to have a moan

I have a big bug bare for those that say “oh she’s daddies girl” yes she is, he’s her father and they have such a lovely bond. Daddy is the one that lets her get away with murder and mummy is the one that always has to say no. What people seem to have difficulty realising is that she is also my daughter to, I carried her for 9 months, I look after her all day every day, nurture and care for her. Why don’t people ever say  “oh she’s a mummys girl”? Because mummy is the one that is running around constantly tidying up after daddy and the daughter so that the visitors don’t trip or fall over spilt drinks, food and toys.

I love the bond that the Mr and the daughter have, it’s lovely to see but others do not see the bond that I have with my daughter, like when she is hurt or scared she comes to me, they don’t see the cuddles that we share, or the mum and baby play times that we have, because when daddy is at home, it’s time for mummy to get on with her chores and workloads.

I really do wish that people realise that saying “oh she’s a daddies girl” on repeat when they come to visit becomes a little offensive to the mum. Yes, I have to be the one to tell her no when she has been naughty or is about to do something that she shouldn’t, yes I make her put her toys away and I will continue to do so, it does not mean I love her any less.

She is my little girl to and she knows that I am her mummy.

It’s very rare that I actually appear in front of the camera with my little girl, usually I am the one behind the camera capturing the moments as she grows.

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  • I used to struggle with this too and I don’t know if it’s the same for you, but it was always HIS family who’d go on about her being a daddy’s girl. It still happens but I just brush if off these days and laugh – all three of us are extremely close and as you say, she goes to Daddy for some things and comes to me for others. We’re all equal in this family and people who need to put labels or some kind of enforced ‘ownership’ on parental relationships deserves pity!

  • People used to say I was a daddy’s girl and I felt really proud of that. I still do, in fact. My daughter isn’t a daddy’s girl, she’s most definitely a mummy’s girl. We don’t do everything equally in this house – my husband hardly ever takes over childcare but I don’t have a problem with that. Neither does Amy which is more to the point.

    CJ x

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